Kids have a strong sense of justice…especially when it effects them personally. I will often find myself with other families, and my kids will come running to me with an offense that the other child has done. It may be the wrong thing. How do you navigate that? A lot of people will say, “If someone is not being nice, just ignore them. Don’t play with them anymore.” Is that Biblical? The Bible says, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” - Matthew 5:44. Recently, Abby had someone treating her the wrong way. I took her aside. I said, “How does that make you feel when she acted that way?” We want to get to her heart. If she can internalize how it makes her feel, she may be less likely to treat others in that way. I try and link it back to her own behavior and choices and how it might effect other people. After she said how she felt, I said something along the lines of, “I’m sorry you felt that way. That’s why we need to treat other people with kindness and make sure to share. You know, I think her mom is working with her on that. Do you want to pray for her so she can have an easier time making better choices?” We then said a quick prayer together. Your child might need to choose to walk away or play with someone else, but I want to help my kids learn to have grace, forgiveness and know that every one of us is a work in progress.
Day #180 Tip – When They Experience Other Kids Doing the Wrong Thing
June 28, 2012 by 1 Comment