Today was a rough day. The kids were being ornery. Their attitudes were not good. They weren’t obeying. I was openly frustrated with their behavior. My patience wasn’t where I would like to have it in an ideal world. I have the bad trait of wearing my heart on my sleeve. So, if I’m annoyed with the kids, it is quite obvious. Today, there was reason for annoyance. However, I wanted to make sure they knew that it in no way affects my love for them. I sat them both down individually, amidst the frustration, and looked them in the eye. I explained to them that I was frustrated. I asked them if they knew why. I let them explain what was happening and why I might have this frustration. They knew exactly what was happening and how they were contributing. I confirmed that I was disappointed in the way they were acting. I also made sure to say that I love them no matter what. Because they could see my annoyance, I wanted to affirm my unconditional love for them. I told them the qualities I love in them and yet confirmed the reasons why it had been a rough day. We want our kids to understand the unending love God has for them. We have experienced this love and grace and need to let it reflect in us.
Day #309 Tip – “It doesn’t affect how much I love you…”
November 5, 2012 by Leave a Comment