I imagine kids get discouraged when they can’t seem to do anything right. It feels like they keep trying and trying and all that is focused on is their failings. Therefore, we need to encourage our kids whenever we see the positive behaviors and character qualities we are looking for. Your kids want to be encouraged. They want to feel like they belong and are accepted by you. The more you encourage them in the positive behavior, the more they realize that it is the behavior that really gets the attention and makes them feel like they belong. They will feel like giving up when the negative behavior is the focus. Go crazy with excitement when they’re doing good.