You’ll need to pick the right moment to use reverse psychology and know your kids. I know my girls are pretty interested in being self sufficient. Being able to push them with “There’s no way you could do that. It’s way too hard,” has pushed them to try. There are moments where I’ll say, amid their tears, “Don’t smile right now. No, don’t do it. Don’t smile.” It will often bring the smile and make the tears go away.