We want to promote sibling relationships. Part of that is to have the kids working together and supporting each other. What that doesn’t include is tattle telling. That said, I have really appreciated the girls coming to inform me of things that are going on that shouldn’t be happening. I have encouraged the oldest to let me know about things quietly so that I can “discover” them on my own. I don’t want to pit her against her sister. Lately, I’ve noticed a bit more tattle telling with the girls. Our friends told us of a phrase they had heard someone else use. “Are you telling me to get that person in trouble, or are you telling me to keep them from harm?” I like that. I don’t want my kids telling on the other one just because they want to see them get a consequence or get in trouble. It’s hard because I do like to be informed of what’s going on with my kids. However, I think there are some things in which I need to let go of to promote sister bonding. I still need to be informed if it’s dangerous or harmful in any way, so this is a way to encourage coming at appropriate times.