Part of guiding our children is helping them to think through problems and come up with viable solutions for the situations they encounter. Sometimes it seems easier and faster to jump in and solve problems or do things for them. We easily give our answers and opinions. However, you can really benefit your child by slowing down the process and helping them think through things with your guidance. A lot of this comes through experimentation and asking questions. It might mean letting them make mistakes. It might seem longer and more tedious in the short term. My kids have recently wanted to pour their own cereal and milk. They’ll never learn if I don’t let them try. However, it takes guidance on my part. I encourage them to think it through first. I teach them to pay attention to where the bowl is, how full the milk is, how much cereal is appropriate, etc. There are so many simple questions you can ask for guidance to help them learn to be real thinkers and problem solvers:
* It’s hot outside, what do you think you should wear today?
* We are leaving to grandma’s house for a couple days, what do you think we might need to pack?
* We are going to the zoo, what do you think we should pack for the day?
* This tray is heavy and off balanced, what is the best way to carry it?
* How could you prevent your glass from spilling? I see that it’s on the edge of the table right now.
* These toys aren’t fitting in the toy box, how could we move them to make it work rather than just trying to shove the box lid on?
There are so many ways you can make your kids become better problem solvers. It’s often hard to not just step in and take over as a mom. I could easily scoot the glass back. However, there is such a benefit to taking the same to help them think things through.