Kids are learning as we teach them to clean. It doesn’t come naturally. If you want your kids to have a happy heart when helping, don’t beat them over the head. As they grow, you’ll be able to really direct them on how things to do it right.
When you are just starting out, however, really praise their efforts in the little things as you go along. If you hand them the folded laundry and send them to their room to put it away, you might be disappointed to see some of the folding undone in the drawers. You may find the long sleeve shirts mixed in with the tank tops. Things aren’t the way you might have hoped. Don’t come down on them. Next time, take a little extra effort to teach them how to keep clothes folded as they are putting it in the drawer. Guess what! It still won’t be perfect. They don’t have the coordination or the attention we have as adults. They’ll learn. Perfection can contribute to significant personal issues in a child’s life. Try not to contribute to this by setting unrealistic expectations as a child. In time, you’ll teach them to do it right. It is very discouraging to a child to have you walk into a room they’ve made efforts to clean and just point out everything wrong. Imagine if someone was doing that to you all day. It will most likely not make things better, but rather become a deterrent for progress in the future. Most individuals thrive better under a system of praise, encouragement and positive teaching. If perfectionism is what you seek, you may reach it to a degree by pounding it into them. However, are creating a well-balanced human being? Please weigh what you are passing down as valuable to your children. Perfectionism can seep in an unhealthy way to all areas of life.