Bedtime can be the most frustrating time as a parent. It’s the end of the day, and you’re done. You want to be with your spouse. You want some quiet time. You want some alone time. You just want to zone out and read a good book, your favorite blog, play a game or watch a show. Yet, the kids don’t get it. They keep coming down to invade that time. Whether they want another drink of water, have to go to the bathroom for the 5th time or want to tell on their sibling for some weird thing, they are up and you a re frustrated.
I have talked before about them owing you time for stalling. The next idea is to adjust bedtime based on behavior. Each time a behavior issues arises, you take away five minutes from their bedtime for the following night. So, if they have three infractions, they would go to bed at 7:45 rather than 8:00. The opposite of this can also be true. Rather than going to bed at 8:00, with great behavior they can have extra time for more stories or just staying up later than usual.
As you adjust their bedtime, kids will learn that when they steal those precious moments away from you, you will gain in elsewhere. I hope this helps solve some of your bedtime woes.