Here is a lesson in faithfulness that binds your kids together in one shirt. I absolutely loved this lesson in faithfulness, and the kids had a blast. Faithfulness is such an important lesson to teach kids, especially in a time where men’s words are no longer their bond. People don’t take their marriage vows seriously. If it doesn’t work for me or if I’m not feeling it anymore, it’s time to go. Is faithfulness history in our culture? I hope we can raise up a generation that says otherwise. I just did an amazing Bible Study by Kay Arthur called “Covenant.” If you have not done this study, I highly, highly, highly recommend it. It is such a faith building study where you see God’s covenant woven so intricately through thousands of years in the Bible. It gives hope in God’s gracious covenant promises to us. It shows so clearly God’s faithfulness to us despite our sin nature that turns from him. It definitely instilled in me the importance God puts on faithfulness and has deepened my own faith in a whole new way.
My husband said to me, I’m throwing this shirt away in the morning as he took it off to go to bed. It was an undershirt that had seen its last days. I was laying there in bed trying to brainstorm an idea for faithfulness when the shirt came back to mind, and it hit me. I love how God has given me extra inspiration with little nuggets along the way as I have developed this character development series. The next morning, I wrote “faithfulness shirt” on his old shirt. When Abby came home from school we did the activity.
I explained to the girls that faithfulness means sticking together. Times get hard. There are a lot of challenges you will face. Faithfulness is being willing to stand by someone’s side during the good, the bad, the challenging, the fun, the hard – even when we don’t feel like it. Sometimes, we feel like it might be easier alone. Sometimes we don’t want to stay loyal to a friend, family member or spouse. However, we are taught that, in love, we are to stick it out with people.
There is more grey area here. I had to explain to the kids that some relationships can become unhealthy. They may have friends that might start to make bad choices. I explained that there are some friends that we need to choose to love and pray for but not be close to because they might influence us apart from things that are good, right and pleasing to the Lord. There are healthy boundaries that need to be made in unhealthy relationships. However, our faithfulness to love and care for that person is still a call. We all know our own areas of weakness and what boundaries we need to make to stay healthy. For kids, it’s might be more black and white since they are often more easily influenced by their peers. Sometimes we adults use boundaries as excuses because we don’t want to love the hard people or we want an easy way out of a relationship. This takes a lot of discernment and prayer. There are times to protect yourself. In marriage, that time is if there is abuse or abandonment. In friendships, it may be someone using you in an unhealthy way or encouraging destruction or sin in your own life because of their behaviors. Each of you will have to make these tricky choices for yourselves while keeping in mind the love and grace God has shown us. We also need to remember that a faithful friend is hard to find and a jewel to keep. Become one!
OK – With faithfulness shirt in hand and lesson spoken, it was time for the visual. I set up an obstacle course. The first thing we did was run through the obstacle course solo. I led the way showing the course they should take. All three followed behind. I said, “That was pretty easy doing it by ourselves. Do you think it would be easier or harder with another person.” They decided it would be more challenging. So, we put the shirt on their heads to bind them together. Here was our course:
Crawling under the dining room table.
Weaving around the drums a couple of times.
Stepping over stools in a line.
Stepping over the pillow trail.
Climbing over the ottoman.
Driving the cars to the finish line.
Corban wanted to try it too, and he was all smiles…
…until he had to actually do the obstacle course, and then he was done. There were actually a couple times the girls weren’t sure they’d make it too. It was more challenging than it looks. There were a lot of laughs and smiles, but there were moments of frustration. They worked through the challenges together. I was there to help be a guide and an encourager. They wanted to run it a few times together. Corban stuck on his own. He is little, so I just let it go and let him have fun. It ended up being a wonderful lesson and experience together.
I’m teaching a course on covenant. ^_^ I’m so thankful to have found your object lesson in the “faithfulness shirt”. Blessings.
I’m so glad you found me. I hope it goes really well. I did the Bible Study Covenant by Kay Arthur, and it was so amazing. Such a blessing! Thanks for letting me know.
Hi m va from fiji n m a sunday school teacher that activity was really awesome and good,meaningful lesson too…
well done…God bless
Thanks so much. I really appreciate it!
Ik wil dit gebruiken om de kinderen op de Zondagsschool te laten ervaren dat de Heere je leven leidt als je in Hem gelooft en op Hem vertrouwd. Hij is de gids. Bedankt voor het idee.
I don’t speak German, so I had to translate this. Thanks so much for commenting. It’s so great to know how this is being used…around the globe apparently. Blessings as you teach kids about our Savior.
Can you share how to you explained the main lesson at the end? Surely it was harder to work together through the obstacle course. But that seems to go against you encouraging faithfulness. So how did you tie that all in together?
Sure! I’d love to. I tied in faithfulness by showing that it can definitely be harder to do things together at times. Faithfulness is saying, “I will stick with you even when things get hard.” Some people want to exit relationships in hard times rather than buckle down and work through those tough times. The shirt shows how we can stick with someone, through good or bad – through the ups and downs of life. Does that help?
Yes, thanks! I’m a Primary teacher and thought about using it in an upcoming lesson. That helps!
We are going to try this in our children’s church this next week! We are going through the fruits of the spirit, so this will fit in wonderfully. Thank you! 🙂 We would appreciate prayers that this activity will ingrain this fruit within these young children’s minds!
Praying for you right now. I’m so glad I could help create a lesson that will work for you. Blessings on your pursuits with those kiddos.
I love this, I am doing VBS in Alabama so I think I will let this be my object lesson. Thank you
so much. I love how God inspires people with things that would have never crossed my mind. God Bless You
You are so welcome. I hope it goes super well for your group. Have fun with it, and thank you for serving those VBS kiddos.