I know it can be particularly tempting around the holiday season to spend – sometimes beyond your means and sometimes beyond what you know your spouse would be comfortable spending. Please talk with your husband prior to the season beginning, and respect him by figuring out an agreed upon budget. Stick to that budget. If you fall in love with something for the kids or for him, show honor to your spouse by consulting him.
The average american family spends $749 on Christmas a year, $548 go to gifts. Our culture can be working against us as we try and honor God and each other with our finances. “Comparison is the robber of joy,” and the Christmas season is all about joy.
Quite honestly, we haven’t decided what we are going to do, but I think 2 main gifts plus some stocking stuffers is reasonable. Whatever it is, I want it to be agreed upon between me and my husband. What is interesting about spending at Christmas time is that men tend to spend more than women. I learned this information at a parenting class at my church about how to do Christmas as a family. One of the men piped in and said he understood that. Men feel a huge pressure to be the provider, and gifts are a part of that. If you can help alleviate some of that pressure, you are loving your husband in a unique way. Let this season be a time to grow closer together rather than letting finances get in the way of your marriage.