In writing this post and considering why I have everything I ever wanted and yet have felt so unhappy, I realize that some of these concepts might be personal and not apply to all women out there.
We are built with different talents and personalities. There may be some of these thoughts that resonate with you completely, while others you cannot relate to at all.
Although all of these ideas will not apply to everyone, I have done much talking to many moms in the past seven years, and realize that all of us struggle with at least a few of the traps written below.
I know that many women say to themselves, “I have everything I ever wanted. Why am I so unhappy?” I would be interested in hearing what you would add to the list or what has been your own journey as you transitioned to becoming a mother.
I also want to add that unhappy is not how I feel the whole time. There are just funk times where I do feel sad and in a state of discontentment, but when I put my life in perspective, I really don’t think I have a right to be so mopey.
I Have Everything I Ever Wanted. Why am I so Unhappy?
I Am in it for the 50-Yard Dash
I didn’t realize that parenting would be more like a marathon that a 50-yard dash. I thought, foolishly, that if I was consistent with my children for a couple months that they would get it. They would suddenly learn that life goes better when they are cooperative and pleasant.
If I let them know that whining won’t get them anywhere, then within a short amount of time, they would give up at that game and approach me in a big kid way because things would go better for them.
I did not understand that parenting would take years and years of teaching, lots of trial and error for both the parent and the child, and lots of love and consistency to see results.
In entering parenting, I failed to remember what I had learned in my child psychology classes about developmental stages. Foolishly, I didn’t remember that I was rebelling against my parents and God throughout my lifetime.
Unfortunately, kids often need to learn the hard way through their own mistakes. Why did I think that my kids would suddenly and magically arrive when I still haven’t?
This is a marathon.
Nothing is going to happen overnight.
The encouragement is that we see a lot of progress and steps forward as we are consistent in both discipline and grace. In my own experience, however, the progress isn’t as instantaneous as I had hoped.
Living in a day in the information age where we are used to things happening quickly and becoming frustrated when a website doesn’t open up as quickly as we would like, it only makes sense that we would want to see instant results in the lives of our children.
I need to begin looking at the finish line, which is farther down the road than I originally thought.
I Am Caught Up in the Comparison Game
You can blame it on Facebook and blogs, but the truth is, we would compare ourselves to others even if we were just looking into the lives of our neighbors, friends or strangers at the park.
There is a famous saying that says, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and I believe that to be true. Read more about that here.
We need to remind ourselves that what we see is only what we see on the surface and not behind closed doors or even the depths of the heart. I need to stop comparing my whole story with snapshots of the highlights of someone else’s story.
We also need to recognize that this journey is unique for all of us.
Everyone comes from different backgrounds, belief systems, experiences, talents and ideologies. We need to stop judging one another and stop beating ourselves up on this parenting journey. It is not productive.
It is important learn to do the best we can do with the information we have and strive to learn more and do better.
There can be a healthy form of comparison where we seek out role models and mentors who seem to be doing or have done it well.
There is also the unhealthy comparison that can paralyze forward progress. I would hope that people could choose the latter.
I Didn’t Know How Hard it Would Be
I had no idea that parenting would be so hard. I didn’t realize that this job would be a mirror to all of my shortcomings and sinful nature. My impatience, selfishness, pride and anger would suddenly bubble out of the depths of my being.
Parenting is a demanding job that we face from morning until night, and sometimes in the wee hours.
It will make us tired, both physically and mentally.
Some of us will face kids who are strong willed, high energy, painfully shy, needy, angry or come with any variety of special needs.
These little humans come to us knowing nothing. It is our job to teach them everything from zipping up their own jacket, wiping their own bottoms, how to draw on paper ONLY or how to carry a bowl in a way where the left over contents don’t fall all over the floor…again and again and again.
We won’t do this teaching one or two times but over and over and over again. There will be lots of spills, frustrations, Sharpie on walls and tantrums along the way.
This job isn’t for the faint of heart, especially if you want to do it really well.
While we do begin to recognize all of our weaknesses, we can also be surprised at how much stronger and wiser we are becoming through the refining process.
I Need to Feed into Myself a Bit
When you become a parent, you learn to see what it means to sacrifice yourself. All of your time and energy is spent on trying to be a great wife to your spouse and a great mom to your kids.
Your time is no longer your own.
While this is good, it is also important to be aware of your own needs in the process.
You might need to learn to ask for help. I remember talking to the Kelli Pritchard who has 11 kids and saying to her that parenting had robbed me of my joy.
She asked what were the things that filled my tank and encouraged me to find a way to get that time to myself. I know that it might seem impossible for some of you, especially single moms or wives with deployed or uninvolved husbands.
It might take some creativity.
One example is that I have a couple friends that I kid-share with during the week. I take her kids one day, and she takes mine another. This gives me a handful of hours to do whatever I want to fill my tank.
For me, I began doing some mural painting and artwork for our church. I baked and cooked more often. Then, I found the passion of blogging, which has not only given me the motivation I needed to try and do the parenting job better, but it has given me an outlet for creativity, pursuit and expression.
Becoming a mom meant that I had to go through a re-birth. I used to be independent and carefree – travelling, seeking adventure, hanging out with friends and exploring my own talents and interests.
When I became a wife and a mom, much of that had to be put to the side.
Rather than waterskiing behind the boat, I was the one left on shore watching and nursing a new infant. That transition was hard for me.
There’s definitely a new sacrifice that I have needed to embrace in the process, but my joy has slowly returned as I realized the importance of reclaiming a bit of who I am and giving myself permission to feed into my own dreams and talents. That said, it’s a balancing game.
I Need to Stop Being so Selfish
Selfishness is something I struggle with the most, both in marriage and in parenting. I have recognized that this is something I have had to combat, or I would grow in bitterness.
I am trying to still learn, daily, what it means to die to myself and live as Christ would want me to live – both with my family and beyond.
I know it will be a lifetime journey that will come with its own hardships and blessings. However, I believe the words that teach us, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interest of others.” Philippians 2:3-4
It is a lofty goal that often seems out of reach, but I’m working toward it.
I Need to Reach out for a Village
The world of mothering can be very lonely. If you are like me, you might find you are more of an introvert than you ever knew. You are talking or being talked to all day now, and when given time, you want to just be by yourself and have some quiet.
I don’t like to ask for help, so I spent much of the beginning years not knowing how to find reprieve.
The encouragement for you is to find ways to bond with other moms or wise mentors through play dates, MOPS groups or coffee dates. It can be challenging to reach out, but I finally reached a place where I felt like I had a village, and it made a huge difference.
I always had friends to meet for play dates or have girl’s nights, but it became different when we became a more intentional village.
Suddenly, it became less difficult to ask someone to watch my kids, pick up my kids from school or ask for help in any variety of ways. I found the freedom in not only being able to ask but also realize the blessing of being about to be one of those friends that people would call to help them.
It felt good to not feel so alone in the process – to not only have people who could help physically, but others to relate to in the process of parenting. It not only benefited me, but it benefited my children as they were around kids who were being raised with the same principals and end goals in mind.
They could see other kids who had parents that were saying some of the same parenting phrases or having the same kind of expectations in their home.
Further, as I became more real and raw with these friends, they felt the freedom to pull off the mask and be candid about their own struggles.
Finding your own village while help alleviate some of the pressures you feel as a mom.
I need to Communicate with my Husband
Our husbands don’t understand what it feels like to become a mom. In the same way, if you are a stay at home mom, you have no way of knowing what it is like to face pressures at work and then immediately transition into the pressures at home.
I am a part of a marriage ministry, and I get to talk to a lot of couples that are struggling with marriage on different levels. One common thread that I see in parents with young kids is a lack of understanding of what the other parent is going through.
As moms, we might have had a chaotic and harried day where the kids were at one another, disobeying and creating all kinds of messes or conflicts.
When our spouse walk through the door, we think that they should see the look on our faces and know that we need a break from the madness. They should take the baby from our hip and let us go take a shower, read a book or go out to run errands alone.
On the other hand, our spouse walks through the door with burdened with loads of pressures at work and they want a safe place to decompress from a tough day. Rather, he walks through the door to find chaos and a harried wife.
Both the husband and the wife must learn the dance of empathy. We must try and see life from the other person’s perspective and sacrifice some of our own hopes and ideals. It is hard on both parties, and it takes a lot of grace-filled communication rather than drama and accusations, whether in our heart or our words.
We often have well-meaning spouses who just can’t relate because a) they aren’t in our shoes b) they are wired differently and c) they have their own shortcomings and set of expectations.
I Need to Let Go of Control
I think that women can be controlling. I know that this is not only a woman issue. Men can struggle with this too.
However, I think women often like to have the power within the home.
There are two saying that pop into my head. “A happy wife is a happy life.” That statement is commonly said, and I think it comes down to our ability to control our home environment.
I also know the quote from the popular movie, “My Big, Fat Greek Wedding,” that says, “The man is the head, but the woman is the neck, and we can move the head however we want. I think part of this control issue comes with the nature of being a mom.
We need to juggle a lot of things. We see the balls in the air, and we see what needs to happen to keep them there. With all qualities, this can be seen as a negative or a positive.
In parenting and in marriage, we can abuse this control. Ultimately, God is in control, so we need to submit to His ways.
In the home, however, when we try and be too controlling of our spouses or our kids, it has negative ramifications.
When I went into parenting, I had a plan of action. If I do A, B and C the results will be A, B and C. Well, it doesn’t always work out the way that we had planned. We don’t want our kids steering the ship, but I think we need to be more adaptable to the different personalities we have been given in our children.
It is important to realize that when our children are infants, we have 100% control. However, at 18, they leave the nest, and we have no control unless they invite us in. If you picture it as a graph, we are gradually giving our kids more freedom as they are growing and showing more responsibility.
If we try and keep our thumbs on them for every decision, they can become resentful and rebellious. We need to learn to let them learn from their own mistakes, giving them boundaries and guidance along the way appropriate at different age levels.
I put Too Much Pressure on Myself
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be great – to be super mom. We think we need to have it all and be it all to do this job well.
We fail to recognize that God can use us in spite of, and often because of, all of our weaknesses. If you look at the great heroes of the Bible, they were often very sinful and ill-equipped people. God uses our weaknesses to reveal His strengths.
We can’t always have the most well-balanced, organic and home cooked meal on the table with the house perfectly clean, homework completed, sick neighbor given a freezer meal, bills paid, kids content and well-mannered, Pinterest perfect crafts adorning the walls, closets looking like they are straight out of the Container Store, and us looking like we just stepped out of a beauty salon after 5 hours at the gym.
You may laugh at those expectations, but you also might relate to them.
I know these are but a few of the pressures I put upon myself.
We can’t do it all, so we often have to ask ourselves what is going to give on particular days.
I would encourage you to keep your priorities God, husband and then kids. However, not every day is going to look like that.
I’ve already said that some days you need that time to yourself. Some days your kids need your full attention. At other times, you might know you desperately need a date night.
We can’t do it all, but we need to keep our priorities straight and have a lot of grace with ourselves in the process.
I Need to Work on the Things I am Teaching my Kids
I can’t tell you how many times I have, in an impatient way, said to my kids to “Be patient.”
I talk to them about how to communicate properly without whining or complaining. I encourage them to “choose joy.” I teach them the fruits of the spirit. After some self-examination, however, I’m learning that I’m not living these out all the time.
You may have read my article, “There’s an attitude problem in my house.” Here I readily admit that I am often the problem.
Of course I’m going to feel discontented if I’m living a life of hypocrisy and not living out the things I believe to be true and good and right. If I believe what I’m teaching my kids, then why do I have such a hard time displaying them in my own heart attitude and actions.
I Need to Realize Parenting Doesn’t Make us Happy, it Makes us Holy
I stole this phrase from a thought about marriage, but I believe it is also true about parenting.
Sometimes people have kids to help fulfill a need or because they feel like it’s the next step in the life journey. We often go into this stage of life thinking that our own children are going to bring us happiness.
Don’t get me wrong, in ways kids bring a lot of joy. However, you have to go into parenting with realistic expectations, knowing that your kids are going to challenge and disappoint.
We cannot rely on our kids to fulfill some hole in our lives; it isn’t fair to your kids or yourself. I have found that the process of becoming a mom is more refining than it is fulfilling at this point. I am acutely aware of all the things God is still working on in my own life.
I Might be in a Season of Parenting that is not my Gifting
I truly believe that different people are gifted with children of different age groups. Just as you will meet teachers who excel at teaching kindergarten while others thrive at the high school level, this is reflected in parenting.
I know that when I taught kindergarten there was something in the depth of my being that revealed it was not the place for me.
However, when I was working with Jr. High and High School kids I felt at home.
I think this is reflected in my parenting. I’m not a baby person. I don’t really enjoy most of the early years, although there are aspects of it that are a lot of fun.
I truly believe I will be in my sweet spot down the road. I see other moms who want nothing more than to hold and care for a baby all day. That just isn’t me.
We need to go through seasons where we are challenged and experience growth. However, I think we will all find our sweet spot in parenting that brings us more enjoyment. That spot will be different for all moms.
I Am Distracted
I will admit that I get distracted.
On those days where I have my own agenda, and I feel the kids are getting in the way of my set of goals or expectations for the day, I know my frustration level rises, as does theirs.
The distraction leads to discontentment. When I am distracted by phone calls, to-do lists, text messages, computers or my own thoughts, the whole family feels it, leading to discord.
This kind of distraction and tension makes us feel unsatisfied because our kids become a frustration rather than a blessing.
Further, everything seems to only get half of our attention rather than our full focus, making us feel like we are accomplishing little. Sometimes it takes organization and schedule to set apart times to focus on the task or the children.
I have been known to set a timer for myself. It often takes sacrifice of our wants to recognize the better for our family.
Sure, kids need to know they are not the center of the universe. However, we can make our lives so busy, and our mind can be in so many places that they never receive our full focus and our full best.
I know I can raise my hand to that one and say, “Guilty.”
I Am not Tapping into the Source of My Strength
The parenting season of life brings forth a whole new set of busyness. We are suddenly on duty 24/7, and the world with toddlers and infants is demanding, both mentally and physically.
Suddenly our free time has gone away, and we are trying to maximize the time we actually get to sleep.
With the limited freedom, we often use that spare time in mindless activities like watching TV, Facebook or playing games on our phones.
Opening the Word of God and spending time in prayer and Biblical meditation can go to the bottom of our priority list.
When I was in that season, I remember some older women saying, “Give yourself some grace. Your time with God is just going to be different now.” Though well-meaning, I think this kind of advice can be hurtful.
Yes, it will probably look different, but we can’t use this hard season as a time to slack in our relationship with God. In fact, this time can be so challenging (at least it was for me) that tapping into God’s strength is what we need the most.
We need a Biblical perspective of what it means to sacrifice self for others. We need to realize that we are weak and can’t do this on our own. We need an extra understanding of the grace God has for us because we often are going to beat ourselves up as parenting begins to reveal all of our sin and shortcomings.
This is not a time to disconnect from the gas that fills our tanks. It’s a time to cling desperately to God, who will love and guide us through this time.
I Have Everything I Ever Wanted. Why am I so Unhappy?
Becoming a mom takes us through a rebirth that can feel painful.
We enter a season that we may feel like we were born to do, and yet suddenly there is discontentment. There is confusion because we have everything we ever wanted and yet feel unhappy.
I have been able to dissect some of the reasons I believe that is true. I think identifying these and realizing that many moms can relate is helpful in adjusting to this new period of life. I would encourage you not to settle into the unhappiness but to recognize these common pitfalls and gain a new perspective on the process.
Here are a couple of great encouraging books if you have also felt discouraged in parenting (affiliate link provided for your convenience):
Surprised by Motherhood: Everything I Never Expected about Being a Mom
One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are
Want More Real and Raw from Meaningful Mama?
Unless You Are Raising a Special Needs Child, You Don’t Understand
Lets face it. Parenting is hard. The more we talk and help each other out the happier we can become. “support from friends, family members and parent groups has been clearly proven to help new mothers deal better with stress and thereby help them see their children in a more positive light.” The Danish Way of Parenting. Great book!
Thanks for the book recommendation. Sounds like a good one. Thank you for taking the time to respond also!
This was a great post with thoughtful, eloquent and encouraging points. I especially appreciated the point about marriages and learning to empathize with one another better. That is a lesson the Lord has been gradually sealing upon my heart this last year. I always enjoy reading your thoughts and love the way you faithfully bring a grace-filled message for your readers.
Great article!! I really needed that..I just replaced all the mum words with dad! As a stay at home Dad it can get even lonelier with little network of support. Been feeling sad while at the same time knowing I have a lucky job being with my son all day. Thanks for putting out your thoughts and feelings!
I can imagine it can get really lonely as a stay at home dad. I applaud you for what you are doing. A dad’s role in a child’s life is irreplaceable, and studies show the importance of what you are doing in developing this relationship with your kids. It’s funny the mixed feelings of not wanting to do anything else and yet feeling sad and discouraged at times. Thanks so much for commenting. Keep it up!
I’m 30+ years past young children, but I remember how very hard it was. You express the challenges in all these areas so well. The part about community is so important–the hardest part is being alone. It’s so important to have parents who work this hard at parenting to create another generation of equally exceptional parents.So glad I happened upon your blog post.
I love hearing from mentor women who have been through this and can encourage us along the way. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! Just trying to do this job well. 🙂
Thank you so much for this. I could have written all of it. I feel selfish a lot, I feel like I don’t always model what I tell my kids to do, and I connected most with not being in the right season of parenting. The early years are HARD and I’ve often wondered if I just wasn’t cut out for being a mom. But perhaps my season hasn’t arrive yet. Thank you.
Sounds like we feel very similar about this season. It is hard, isn’t it! Thank you so much for commenting. I know we will hang in there and hit our stride…especially if we (I’m talking to myself mostly) get over the selfishness. 🙂
This is a fantastic post. Selfishness is hard! Motherhood is hard! It’s all harder than we thought. And even my extroverted self has changed somewhat. I really do think it’s about remembering grace and putting down unrealistic expectations, remembering it is that marathon and not a sprint.
Thanks so much for commenting. I think selfishness is probably my biggest problem. 🙂 I’m glad it comes in waves and isn’t how I feel 100% of the time. It was good for me to be able to write the post so I could identify some of the roots.
Awesome post! I think every person reading this will find at least one point that is their ‘story’. 🙂
Thank you so much! I have found enough threads in talking to friends that I realized it wasn’t just me and was a post that needed to be written. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.
Thank you for writing this!! I just the other night had the middle of the night sobbing, pity party about how can I be so unhappy when I have everything anyone could ever ask for. I felt like a crazy person, and my hubby was so supportive. I loved everything about this article. 🙂
I’m so glad this reached you at the perfect time. It’s a hard season, and I’m sure you’ll get through this. We can let our emotions easily outweigh our logic. It was helpful for me to sit down and lay it all out so that I could more easily identify why some of these feelings were flooding me at times. Thanks so much for commenting!
I needed to read this!! Sometimes I feel like I am being pulled in so many directions and trying so hard to get it “right” that I am on the brink of falling apart!! There’s always room to improve, alter and change for the better…just comforting to know it’s something we all struggle with in one way or another!
It’s true! We all do struggle with it to a degree. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing how you relate to this article. I believe when other parents read the comments, they’ll feel not so alone in the journey.
This is great and much needed. Thank you. You hit the nail on the head for many reasons why I struggle with being a mom and I was encouraged to know that I was not the only one who experiences these circumstances. Thank you!
Thank you so much for commenting on this post. It was really from the heart and hard but good to write. It seems to resonate with a number of women I have talked to, so I am glad it is going out there with purpose. Blessings!
I wanted to cry the whole way through this article. Every bit is true and to top it I have issues of resentment that I still hold on to. I’m married to a man who is so far different from I am and my kids have a mix of both our personalities. I’ve struggled for 5 almost 6 months now wondering why I am so unhappy. My husband thinks Im not in love with him. He says my attitude is horrible to the whole house. I’ve become so bitter being mom. To be honest I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to raise my kids who are as head strong as he is. They’re both toddlers and I’m at a lost. I read your article and found out why. I’m more concerned with me and having the small freedom I had taken from me. I was fine but after my husband deployed its not the same. I want to change. I feel inspired to chase down some Christian help and motherly women. Thanks.
Thank you so much for commenting on this post, Keisha. Messages like this are the gas for my tank in this blogging world. I’m so glad you found it helpful and feel like you want to experience change. I don’t know if you read this article too – https://meaningfulmama.com/2014/12/theres-attitude-problem-house.html. It might be helpful. This job is just challenging. I know what if feels like to have head strong children. I also know what it feels like to let the frustration interfere in your marriage, which is why I have begun writing on marriage too. You also might find this article helpful: https://meaningfulmama.com/2015/08/this-one-tip-will-transform-your-marriage.html. I would encourage you to do all you can to feed into your marriage at this time. I hope you’ll seek out the community you need. Please let me know how I can help. If you want resources for certain issues you are having with your kids, just reach out. I’d love to come along side you on this journey. Thanks! Jodi
One thing I have realized is that I am selfish. I didn’t start out that way, then one day I realized that due to that fact I felt I wasn’t getting the things I needed in certain areas in my life that I need to start getting things when I can. Which now I’ve had this realization, I know it’s wrong no matter what because it doesn’t help me be a better parent, or wife. I know I have lost something over the last ten years I’m just not altogether sure what was lost or how to get it back.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your heart. I know I have felt exactly like you so many times. At times I feel like I’ve lost joy. I’ve said many times, “I used to be fun.” I used to have more energy. I am pretty sure I have always been selfish though. Eek! I don’t know how old your kids are. I still struggle off and on with some of this. I have another post in the works on the topic. That said, I really do believe that as my kids get older I see myself regaining joy, fun and some of the energy. I think the younger years are just hard. I’ve also been really wanting to fight against an acceptance of the rut. I don’t want to be like that, so I work to try and pray against it, ask for help and seek to change. I really appreciate you commenting. I’m sorry it’s hard for you right now. Let me know if I can help more.
Thank you so much for writing this article! I could relate to every part. It has helped me to see my parenting thru a new light and motivated me to make positive changes!
I am so happy to help. That is what I love what I do. Hang in there. Parenting isn’t hard, but it is changing us…in a positive way. Blessings on your journey!
So glad this popped up on my facebook page today. I could have written this entire article. I’m reading some of the articles you recommended to other commenters too. You are a blessing!
Thank you so much! I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. It’s such a blessing to know when my story touches the lives of others.
And to think that all i ever wanted for a good single man like me was too meet the right good woman to settle down with, and have a family that i still don’t have today. Really hate being single and alone all the time, which it gives me a very excellent reason to hate all the holidays that come around.
Sorry for your experience. That is hard.
Tonight I Googled “I have everything I ever wanted and it sucks” and your blog came up. I love that you, like me, are a mom and wife who loves Jesus. I identified with every single one of your points. Mostly, my gas tank is empty and I need to refuel with my source: God. Too often I escape mentally, and now, seven years into my parenting career, I realize I need to face my emotions rather than hiding from them and figure this thing out. I don’t want to feel this way anymore.
Thank you for sharing your heart. I’m too scared to do the same, but maybe one day.
Hi! Thanks so much for writing. I wrote this post years ago, but I’m glad it is still connecting with people where they are at because the emotions are real and often raw. We can also feel so alone as we are feeling these strong emotions that come with parenting. I can encourage you that I’m in my almost 15th year of parenting, and I feel more encouraged every year. There is still hard, but as we continue to submit to the refining process – which sucks at times – we do find the perseverance, character, and hope that God promises. With it comes returned joy and contentment. There is hope. I pray you do experience that hope and joy increasing over time. Blessings. If you have felt like this, I would encourage you to explore more in my parenting tab for more encouragement. This post comes to mind: https://meaningfulmama.com/parenting-is-a-refinement-process.html
I dont understand all the fuss. Parenting is hard, bla, bla and bla. No one told you to have kids, it was your doing. Why always make mountains out of mole hills? Parenting is training on the job, give your best and most of all, DONT PRETEND TO BE PERFECT. Love you kids, love them with all you have, thats all that counts, not the perfect kitchen, not the happy spouce, not your stress, which you mostly create yourself, not you friends, your kids come first, last and always! And you know why?
BECAUSE THEY DID NOT ASK TO BE BORN, IT WAS YOUR DOING!!!
It’s been a learning process and growing into the things you said. Love my family. Love my kids. It’s just a journey that I honestly share here because I know others can relate. Obviously, it hasn’t been your journey, which is great. I just find beauty in being real with my own development as a human being – yes, flawless as I am. I hope we can find grace for one another in the process.
Tell God to take a hike. He’s just one more mouth to feed. You need that time for rest.
I’m sorry that’s how you feel. I find God as the most extensive rest. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” – Matthew 11:28-30. Maybe you have been served a works-based faith, which is counter to what the Bible teaches, which is God’s grace given because of faith alone. Yes, knowing that grace results in behaviors that reflect God, but Christianity is the only religion I know that isn’t salvation because of works. Wishing you all the best on your journey. Thanks for taking the time to comment.