Guilty, guilty, guilty. This is the feeling we often experience as mothers. We need to start promoting, in our hearts, saying, “no,” to mom guilt.
In speaking with other moms, this is a plague that faces us all. We never feel good enough.
There is such a pressure through society to do all and BE ALL. It is easy to believe the lie that we should be able to be the schedule maker, chef, side line coach, teacher, business woman, and mother all while eating perfectly and being a model woman always presentable in every fashion.
Just typing the list above makes me stressed.
What if just “being” is enough and doing is the cream on your cup of “mom-tea”? Would your guilt be gone? I’m officially saying “no” to mom guilt.
Saying “No” to Mom Guilt
Let’s look into that cup of tea we call motherhood. WHAT IF just purely being present, loving your child, being imperfectly human and offering your hand in their journey in life IS ENOUGH?
What if your affection is enough and your presence as they sit on your lap while you pay bills or work is enough?
What if your essence, your smell, the sound of your voice and your loving touch is enough?
What if the gift of YOU as their mom with all your IMPERFECTION is ENOUGH?
If it were….and I believe IT IS… Mom Guilt would be banished.
That simple cup of tea… yes, you…Mom… will suffice.
My kids will kiss me and tell me they love me and how good I am, while too often I think, “No I’m not.”
NO MORE. Mom guilt, I refuse you because you lie.
See, I’ve come through a bit of a dark cloud these last few weeks and what I’ve learned is the activities, the trips to the park, the baking sessions, the sports camps and efforts to DO MOM-hood are the cream. They are great, don’t get me wrong, but they are the lavish cream on the top of the tea your child already loves.
I am enough. You are enough. Love is enough, and your best is enough.
I don’t write as a parenting guru ever. When I write about parenting I just lay my vulnerabilities out in hopes that another may relate, feel hope and can take a deep breath in and know… It’s gonna be OK.
Momma, you are doing good.
Tears well up in my eyes as I write this because I needed to hear that. I have faith you do to.
I can not promise we will never face mom guilt again. I want to share 10 things I have learned to say to myself and am determined to say as I refuse guilt.
Positive Self Talk to Fight Mom Guilt
- My presence matters.
- My love is enough.
- My best differs with each day.
- Perfection is not needed, just persistence to love and teach and grow as a om.
- My “doing” is not required to be a good mom. It’s the cream not the tea.
- If I’m not quitting, I’m succeeding.
- Mistakes are for learning and growing.
- ” Me-time” makes “their-time” better.
- I’m not guilty.
- Just breath.
Let’s refuse this Mom Guilt together and strive to just be there for our child with love and enjoy life more. Dovidenia. Xo
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Thank you so much! I get so tired of these bloggers who just keep laying the mommy guilt on thick. Just yesterday I responded to one about a woman whose daughter left her a note after she left her bedroom for the night saying “I needed you & you didn’t come.” The article gave no hint that there was anything wrong before she left the room. She says they read a story. I commented that lights out is a boundary that needs to be taught. Of course comments came back re: “But we need to take the time to listen to our kids.” Yes, we do, but a note like that when the child didn’t indicate anything was wrong before is simply a form of manipulation. We need more people to realize that we are allowed to have lives apart from our kids!
Good feedback. We really are working hard to do the best by our kids, and that’s going to look different each day. We need to have grace with ourselves along the way. I’m glad this post reached you and spoke to your heart. 🙂